Marriage so far…Newly Weds

December 10th, 2017

So it’s been ONE YEAR since we got married. I cannot believe it! It feels like just the other day, literally. Looking back at pictures and videos from our wedding brings back such amazing memories. I thought I’d share a little about what new marriage feels like. Firstly, here are some highlights from the wedding that I’ve not yet shared. Enjoy 🙂 And a huge thank you to Simply Justified Productions for the video.

I’m not even close to being a marriage guru just yet so no one’s fronting here lol, these are just my own personal reflections as someone new to marriage. Marriage was a big deal for the both of us as weren’t also tying the knot but we were also moving in together for the first time so there were a combination of new, immediate changes we were experiencing for the first time together.  I thought of three words that immediately came to mind when I reflect on early married life so far…

Learning: Everyday! You’re constantly learning about your partner and understanding their way of thinking and doing things. It’s not only fascinating (should eggs go in the fridge or not, where do you store your plantain?) but it helps a lot when it comes to knowing how best to communicate with your partner. I was discussing on Twitter the other day about why it’s important to learn as much as you can about your date before taking more permanent steps with them, understanding and learning about their background, culture, ideologies and ultimately, their way of doing things, particularly if you plan to live with them or have children together.

Fun: Marriage really is fun, I feel like I’ve married my best friend and we get to explore life and see what we can build together in the time God gives us and that really excites me. We have a white board where we write up what we’re having for dinner and stuff like that gasses me, marriage is like an elongated sleepover and no one has to go home. Since I’ve been with my husband we have traveled lots and been to some incredible places, lived abroad for 6 months and set up our own business. There are ups and there are downs but married life can be fun.

Appreciation: Around 3 months into my marriage, I had a phone conversation with my grandma who was married to my grandad for more than 50 years before he passed away and she said one thing she misses is having a constant companion in life. How she described marriage was perfect. I felt that but never knew how to put it into words when people asked me what married life was like “so far”.  Being married to someone you love makes you feel twice as powerful because you can go into anything knowing you have full support, protection and guidance from another human being who also has your best interests at heart and vice versa. I’ve really learned to appreciate my husband and what he does for me and it encourages me to want to be a better person too. My first year of marriage has taught me how to love, how to give, how to forgive and how to be selfless.

What three words would you use to describe marriage? Comment below or Tweet me @HRoyalThighness

 

Malika – I Live

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Marriage so far…Newly Weds

December 10th, 2017